BY STEVE DUNN
One of the quality leadership marks in ministry is the belief of those that are being led are being lead by a leader who cares for them. Dan Reiland has shared a post that I want to pass along to you that handles this with clarity.
THE WINNING COMBINATION FOR ANY LEADER
Have you experienced a teacher or professor who was brilliant in their subject, but didn’t seem to care about you as their student?
Have you encountered a doctor or nurse who seemed to be a genuinely caring person, but only average in their skills?
This is a common experience and can be true in anyone from a plumber to a therapist.
But when you find someone who is both competent and cares, that is an extremely valuable person.
The same is true for leaders.
When a leader is highly competent and clearly demonstrates that he or she sincerely cares, that is always a winning combination.
I’ve met pastors who are brilliant Bible teachers, but somewhat distant from the people. I’ve also met warm and loving pastors who are only average in their communication skills.
Here’s an intriguing question. Which do you think is more important? Competence or Caring?
The quick answer might be, “It depends.” Perhaps you’d say: “I want the pilot of my next flight to be competent; I don’t care if he’s aloof and distant. I don’t need him to hold my hand, I need him to land the plane.” Fair enough.
But there are far more situations where I think you will say caring matters. For example, I want my dentist to be really good, and I want him to care. I don’t want some guy with a drill in his hand with zero compassion!
You don’t want the teacher of your 1st grader to be brilliant in early childhood education, and yet be cold or even harsh toward your child.
As a leader, I don’t think we have to settle for either/or, and I know the people who follow you don’t have to settle.
Candidly, people have choices. They will search until they find a leader, doctor, teacher, coach, boss etc., who is both caring and competent.
Two Truths to Help You Move Forward:
1) Caring isn’t automatic.
Not everyone cares. We agree on that.
You can’t learn to care. It’s not a skill.